Keep and open mind as you read on and uncover the fundamental basics associated with the spiritual side of sex. What is it really? Where did it come from and how does it relate to me?
To start off lets look at Tantra:
The basic principles:
Sex is slowed down. There's gradual, controlled thrusting, rather than the usual frenetic free-for-all. This enables women to use learned techniques like vaginal tensing and flexing - a posh version of pelvic floor exercises. Tantra teaches you to stay in the moment. If you're the type to drift off while your partner's still gamely thrusting away, the 'connecting' exercises could be useful. Traditional sex therapy encourages people to lose themselves in the experience, whereas Tantra is all about staying fully aware in the present.
The breathing exercises are designed to improve sexual tone, prolong intercourse, and can help men who have premature ejaculation.
* Encourages couples to stop being time - or orgasm focused.
* Tantric techniques involve heart as well as other parts.
* There's no place in Tantra for lovers to be selfish - it's all about giving.
Kama Sutra:
Basic Principles:
Interestingly, all the complex seduction and sexual techniques actually aren't aimed at couples in love. If you love each other, all you need to do is "let yourself go and be led by instinct". The techniques are designed to help you achieve this state. Some positions seem yoga-like because they-re designed to facilitate meditation as a couple. They're also intended to allow you to have sex for one or two hours with minimal movement needed. During this time, you will exchange vital energies.
* It recognizes female orgasm in a time when others thought there was no such thing.
* It recommends the man ensures she climaxes before he does.
* Sexual boredom and monotony are seen as the reason why couples split up.
* It's common in India for men to be encouraged to read the
* Kama Sutra before marrying.
Taoism:
Basic Principles:
Taoism recognized men can have multiple orgasms because orgasm and ejaculation are two separate processes. (Ejaculation is simply the series of contractions that pumps the semen out the feeling of orgasm happens in the brain.) Using long, involved 'sting-like' processes, men are taught to train their brain and body to separate orgasm from ejaculation. There's a focus of a lot of foreplay and nine types of thrusting to try - the aim being to achieve 81 thrusts (one set of nine of each type!)
- It recognizes that male desire is easier to ignite and quick to burn out, while female arousal takes longer but tends to last longer.
- There's an emphasis on slow, prolonged foreplay with lots of finger and mouth action for her.
Things to Try:
Keeping it simple:
Make your bedroom sexy - Keep it at the right temperature with l0ow, flattering lighting. Burn oils or scented candles, put some music on. The Kame Sutra encourages you to involve all five senses in sex - not just tough and sight.
Have a bath together - soap each other's bodies and dry each other off afterwards, wash each other's hair. Lots of people find this sexy, particularly if it involves a nice head massage.
Have some 'treat' nibbles in bed - eat these and have a glass of bubbly either before or after sex.
For harmonious sex - press similar body parts together - lips to lips, hands to hands. For excitement and stimulation, press dissimilar body parts - mouth to breast.
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